Essential Tips for Boys: Navigating Relationships with Dignity and Strength

Hi there, fellow boys! If you're among the young men navigating the confusing and exciting world of relationships, I've got some insights I wish I had known at your age. This is a guide I've wanted to share with the broader boys' community, especially young men in India, as these lessons hold universal value.

Dignity and Self-Respect

While self-esteem and ego are often separate, it's important for young men to know their limits and not pamper girls beyond measure. Never compromise your own respect, as this is fundamental to your personal growth and well-being.

For instance, suppose you have a crush on B, but she responds with indifferent interest. She may take you for granted, treating you as a pet and disregarding your feelings. It's better to recognize this early and promptly create distance. Engage in activities that interest you, such as hobbies, to stay occupied and maintain your self-respect.

Not Easily Available to Girls

When dealing with romantic interests, it's crucial to emphasize self-preservation and prioritize personal projects over constant availability to others. If a girl expects you to drop everything for her, it's a red flag for both her and you. Be clear that she should manage her own work or projects without your assistance unless it's already completed. This communicates that she is an independent individual and is capable of handling her own tasks.

Avoid wasting your energy and time to appease someone who is often demanding. Keep your focus on your goals and objectives, ensuring you're not sacrificing your own worth and aspirations for others.

Career First Priority

During the teenage years, the allure of attraction to the opposite sex is almost irresistible. However, this should not distract you from your academic and career goals. All girls, regardless of their professions, will prefer a stable and settled person for a life partner. Disregarding your career for the sake of relationships can lead to regret and dissatisfaction.

For example, imagine B accepted your proposal and you're in a relationship. Finally, you have succeeded in this endeavor. But if you graduated with subpar grades and no skills because you focused on B, she might leave with the excuse that it's impossible to live with an unemployed person. This is your fault for neglecting your future.

Remember, career should come first. Once you're settled in life, then you can find a suitable partner. Cut back on watching unrealistic love films and instead focus on your personal growth and development.

The Importance of Family

Always show respect and give quality time to your family. They are the ones who will stand by you in any difficult situation. While a girl might betray you, family remains a constant source of love and support. Family will always pray for your well-being, even if you're broke and confused about your life path.

When facing challenges, your siblings or parents might offer encouragement and motivation. Even after you've tried to shine and succeeded, family will continue to support you. Focus on strengthening your relationship with your loved ones and always be there for them.

Be Less Desperate

A tendency to commit to a relationship out of desperation can often lead to regret. It's better to be single than in a ruined relationship. Stay away from the unrealistic romantic notions that can be found on social media and focus on self-improvement.

For instance, avoid spending your time anxiously following a girl's Quora profile or constantly messaging her for no good reason. You are just one person among many. Properly invest your time in yourself, read books, play your favorite games, and focus on improving your life.

Bonus: Embrace Reality

This advice provides a clear and unfiltered view of the world, allowing you to see your situation more clearly. Avoid being misled by movies and music videos that portray an artificial, idealized version of life. Instead, enjoy the present and provide your thoughts as validation for others to boost their morale.

Ashamedly, your relationship status might depend on how you view yourself. So, be proud of this guide and apply its lessons to your life. Trust the process and keep striving for personal and professional growth!

Don't forget, Jai Hind!