Navigating Emotional Manipulation: When Someone Blocks You After Unblocking

Receiving a message from someone after being blocked can be confusing, especially if they messaged you back only to block you again. If you find yourself in this situation, it's important to understand what's happening and how to respond to protect your emotional well-being.

The Truth Behind Rejection

If someone is interested in getting back together, they wouldn't act this way. Continuing to message someone who is blockading you is likely to continue this treatment until you decide to move on. If you find this kind of behavior acceptable, you might want to pursue it further. However, if you want to respect your own self-worth and dignity, it's essential to prioritize your emotional health.

Understanding Emotional Manipulation

When someone unblocks you only to block you again, they are likely confused and playing with your emotions. This behavior is a form of emotional manipulation. Emotional manipulation is a pattern of behavior that is designed to control another person's emotions or behavior. It can be a sign of emotional immaturity or a tactic used to keep you hanging and uncertain, prolonging the uncertainty and distress.

Recognizing Narcissistic Behavior

It's important to understand that if your ex-partner is a narcissist, this pattern will not change. As someone who has been in a 32-year relationship with a narcissist, I can attest to the fact that they do not typically grow out of such behavior. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, you risk experiencing a range of harmful behaviors, including gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional abuse.

Education and Self-Esteem

It's crucial to educate yourself about potential mental health disorders such as narcissistic personality disorder. Websites like Quora and mental health professionals can be valuable resources for understanding and recognizing such behaviors. Having a better understanding can help you make informed decisions and protect yourself from further emotional harm.

Self-Confidence and Independence

The more independent you are, the less likely a man will try to control you. Knowing that you can make it on your own without needing him can significantly reduce his pushiness. If you find yourself chasing him, think of it as an indication that your efforts are futile. Instead, let him know you can live without him. Avoid messages like “I miss you” or any loving words; silence is often the best response. His behavior will likely repeat itself, and the more you tolerate it, the more it will continue.

Setting Boundaries

Set clear boundaries and stick to them. If he contacts you after you've moved on, let him know that you have moved on. If he persists, then it's time to maintain distance. Use humor and assertiveness to deflect any attempts to engage. For example, if he tries to reach out, simply respond with something like, "Alright, but I'm just enjoying my independence now. If you're not interested, that's okay, and I'm grateful for our past." This can help him realize that your independence is non-negotiable.

Moving On

Focus on your well-being by engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Spend time with friends, join clubs or gym classes, and engage in hobbies that you enjoy. Distance yourself from negative influences and surround yourself with positive, supportive people. By setting your goals and achieving them, you'll know that you can thrive without dependency on another person.

Conclusion

Navigating such emotionally manipulative behavior can be challenging, but it is not insurmountable. By educating yourself, standing strong, and setting clear boundaries, you can protect your emotional well-being and move forward with confidence. Remember, love is not something that should cause you distress or manipulation. If you find yourself in a situation like this, take steps to prioritize your happiness and well-being.