Navigating Life as an INTJ with ADHD: A Unique Perspective

Most people believe that ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is a real condition that affects behavior and needs to be diagnosed. However, from a different perspective, ADHD may be interpreted as simply a set of behavioral traits that are connected to one's personality type. INTJs (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging), for example, do not exhibit behaviors that can be confused with ADHD. In this article, we will explore the unique experience of being an INTJ with ADHD, as seen through the eyes of a 42-year-old woman who also identifies as an INFJ with autism, ADHD, and dyslexia.

Understanding ADHD and INTJ

ADHD may not exist as a medical condition but rather as a collection of behaviors that are part of one's personality type. INTJs are known for their logical and analytical nature, often not exhibiting the disruptive behaviors associated with ADHD. However, individuals with ADHD may experience traits like the 'squirrel effect'—where their mind chases the next thing that catches their attention.

The Role of Perception and Awareness

The squirrel effect can be a useful tool if one recognizes it and adjusts their lifestyle to be healthy with it. Being aware of one's behavior is crucial for managing ADHD effectively. For instance, while the author's 40-year-old brother, who recently discovered Ritalin, tries to convince her of its usefulness, she maintains that her attention is appropriate and her activity level is more calm than a THC-induced coma.

The Challenges of Living with Multiple Conditions

The author is a 42-year-old INFJ woman living with autism, ADHD, and dyslexia. These conditions add layers of complexity to her life, making it difficult to form and maintain friendships. Family members often struggle to understand her intentions and behavior, leading to feelings of isolation and misunderstanding.

Schroedinger's Cat and the Mind Paradox

Using the imagery of Schroedinger's Cat as a metaphor, the author describes her existence as a theoretical place and time that only exists in the paradox of her own mind. She wonders if she is only real to her and ponders the fear that no one will ever truly know who she is. This uncertainty and fear are not unique to her; many individuals with diverse backgrounds and conditions grapple with similar challenges.

Finding Acceptance and Purpose

Despite the challenges, the author finds strength and purpose in her unique mindset. She recognizes that taking offense to the awareness around her conditions can sometimes mean she is capable of existing without relying on 'magic beans.' She believes that understanding and accepting one's behaviors, even those that may seem abnormal, is key to finding a balanced and fulfilling life.

Conclusion

Living with multiple conditions like ADHD, autism, and dyslexia can be overwhelming. However, by embracing one's unique perspective and behaviors, individuals can navigate their lives with purpose and acceptance. The journey of self-discovery and understanding is a continuous process, and finding support and understanding from others can make all the difference.

Keywords

INTJ, ADHD, ADHD Awareness