Understanding and Respecting Your Cat as a Family Member

As a cat owner, it's important to understand that your relationship with your cat is not just as a pet, but as a family member with its own unique characteristics and needs. Over the years, I've learned to respect and appreciate cats not just as individuals, but as creatures with their own mindset and social structures. This article explores the misunderstandings, mistakes, and lessons learned in our relationship with cats.

From Misunderstandings to Mutual Respect

For a long time, I viewed animals, particularly cats, as 'wind-up toys' that needed to be handled according to specific instructions. However, my first pet cat, Macavity, changed my perspective. This community cat who suddenly appeared in our Miami apartment taught me the importance of understanding the nuanced behavior and individuality of domesticated cats.

According to a source I read, 'We may never fully understand cats,' which I've come to believe is true. Cats are complex creatures that require study and patience. They are not just pets; they are part of the family and have their own unique hierarchy and rules within it.

Respecting the Natural Cat Behavior

Cats have their own social structures that exist parallel to human hierarchies. They are hierarchical and matriarchal, with their own chain of command within the group of cats living in a household. Trying to force them into a service position is not only unsuccessful but also disrespectful. This goes against the natural behavior of cats, which often leads to misunderstandings and conflict within the household.

Case Studies in Cat Care

One of the most notable examples is Morgana, a tiny 8-pound cat who grew to become a protective queen. During her time, she not only led her litter of kittens but also protected our family, especially our children. When she came across a giant snapping turtle threatening us, she showed incredible courage, fighting it off to ensure our safety. She pranced proudly beside me as we took the turtle back to the swamp, her actions clearly showing the high regard she had for our family.

Another notable cat was Anakin, a noble knight who fiercely protected 'Baby Cheeto,' our adopted kitten. He even intimidated a beagle that came too close, showing his protective nature. These stories highlight the bond between humans and cats and the responsibilities that come with it.

Respecting Cats as Individuals

Cats are as individualistic as humans. Some cats will not fit into your household hierarchy and can even become a danger to children or other pets. It's important to respect each cat for who they are and not force them into a role they might not want. Say 'no' and move them if they are in places where they can harm themselves, but never slap them. It's essential to understand and respect their nature, which involves allowing them to be their true selves.

Managing Cat Behavior

I learned to manage cat behavior in a way that respects their autonomy. For instance, Morgana tried to teach me how to hunt like a cat. She'd describe her successful hunts in what she thought was English. I used a cap pistol to break up a cat riot when they were engaged in a heated argument. What I learned was that you can't break the spirit of a cat; they are happiest when allowed to be themselves. Intervene when necessary but never by force or violence.

Conclusion: Treating Cats with Love and Respect

My journey with cats has taught me that treating them with love and loyalty will earn you their respect. Cats are not just pets but family members who will respond to you in kind. They are not to be seen as wind-up toys but as creatures with a soul that deserves love and understanding. By respecting their individual nature and allowing them the freedom to be who they are, you can create a strong, loving bond with your feline companions.